How Children Show Signs of Abuse

Children have a more difficult type expressing abuse. In some cases, they are too young to explain it or are so used to it that it is a regular occurrence to them. In other cases, children are afraid to talk. Abusive adults will belittle them and make them feel that they have no where to turn to. If they do, there can be greater consequences.

First, it is important to note that there are different types of abuse. Physical abuse is the most predominant type of abuse, but it can be hard to detect if the child hides the evidence under clothing or bandages. If you ask about burns, scratches, or bruises, a child will typically act nervous and make up a lie, deeming the cause as an accident.

Neglect is another form of abuse. In such cases, you can visibly see that the child is not properly cared for, and perhaps has torn clothing or is unkempt. Neglect also involves constantly leaving a child home alone or failure to pick them up from places such as school.

Emotional abuse also involves neglect, but encompasses other signs. Emotionally abusive parents constantly talk down to their child, making them feel worthless and unloved. A lack of self-esteem is exhibited by children who are emotionally abused. Such children also act below their age.

Children also exhibit certain signs of sexual abuse. They may be afraid to go home or be around other adults. During gym or sports activities, they might not want to go to the locker room. Bedwetting is common in younger sexually abused children.

The last thing you want to do is wrongly accuse a parent of child abuse. In some cases, it is difficult to detect. When in doubt, seek the advice of a counselor or attempt to approach the child your self. If you ever suspect child abuse, do not hesitate to contact your local child welfare agency.

Help for Child Abuse

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When a child is abused sexually, it is sometimes called molestation. Many times the other person involved is still a child or fairly young also. The majority of the time, they were abused when they were children themselves. It is significant to note that most children who are abused do not speak up. Often they have been threatened by them or they promise they will hurt others that they love. They think that by not speaking out they are actually helping the situation.

Even if they did want to, there are social taboos that the child would be enmeshed in for the rest of his life. Many feel very guilty since it happened at the time when they were becoming naturally curious about the human body. This is the age that the offender targets and they look for children of that age primarily. This occurs in all social classes and any ethnic group. The average targeted age is between nine and ten years old for both girls and boys.

The highest percentage of the children targeted are Caucasian children. Indecent exposure is also considered a form of abuse and so is showing pornography to a child. If you notice that a child of this age has had a dramatic change in behavior and is now exhibiting a withdrawn personality, it may be a good idea to engage them in a conversation and perhaps refer them to a trusted adult figure. If they begin to act out, it would be wise to refer them to a hot line or contact the counseling center of the school. This could be happening in the home or any other close familial seeing group.

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If Your Child is a Victim Consider Change in Schools

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If you or your child have been sexually abused, you can make a civil case and take the offender o court. You can sue for damages for injuries and include the medical bills and lost wages also. Unfortunately, there is still such a social stigma involved with rape that the victim is traumatized not only physically but emotionally as well. Never the less, if there was unwanted touching, it is considered assault and battery. If some one has used their authority in an unreasonable or dishonest way, it is called unlawful restraint.

If you catch some one watching you or listening to you with out your permission, it is called invasion of privacy. When some one intentionally acts in a way that can cause you extreme distress emotionally, it is called negligent infliction of emotional distress.
If this has happened, this person has broken the law. They are the one who needs to stop his inappropriate actions and pay for the damages. They can no longer mess with your emotions and hurt or threaten you or your loved ones.

You or your child may have been abused by some one in authority. If they begin to show signs of shame or guilt and low self esteem, you should look into his schedule of activities deeper. Look for any bruises or if he is suddenly making excuses for not wanting to attend school. If the depression and detachment continue or get worse, you may need to consider changing schools for him. He may not feel safe enough to talk about it until he is out of the environment completely. You will need to make the first move for him.

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Some Signs of Child Sexual Abuse

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Many offenders of child sexual abuse target children between the ages of nine and ten. The will go out of their way to be friendly with the children and often times it cold be children of their same sex. If you happen to notice a child in your care with difficulty walking and other strange changes in their personality, you may need to consider sexual abuse of the child. It may be the obvious answer if suddenly the child appears pregnant. Other symptoms are much more subtle such as noticing a change in appetite or sudden instances of bed wetting. The may not want to dress out for gym class or feel like participating in any group activities. They may begin to act more fearful or show feelings of shame or dread.

If it is the parent who is involved, they may be limiting the contact with other children of the same age. They may act secretively. They will act controlling with all the family members. They may show too little concern for the child. Some is wrong with the situation if the child is always vigilant, too compliant or withdrawn.

The effects of abuse in a child are long lasting. A child can not protect himself and looks to the adult in authority to do so. They are not able to stop the abuse by themselves and can not protect themselves from being forced or being the victim of trickery. With out a support from a caring adult, the child will fall into a attitude of inadequacy and could eventually identify with the aggressor. This is how the victims will eventually become the offenders if they do not get the help they needed as a child.

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Pay Attention to Actions of Adults

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This is an active time that we live in. Many people come and go to different communities often. For those of you who have children, there are times when it will pay for you to be extra vigilant. If you notice an adult, especially one in authority, who is being overly friendly with your child, pay attention. If you see your child talking to an adult an he seems to be touching excessively, pay attention. If you child has received special privileges often and no one else has, some thing is fishy. If it appears that the adult only wants to talk to certain children and ignores all others, it is a concern.

If you are noticing these behaviors by the same adult, they are most likely indicators that something else may be setting up to happen. It is better to take the initiative now and avoid the heartbreak and turmoil later. You make not have enough proof to confront this person, but you can keep your child and other children out of harm’s way. If you do not have any proof, it would be best not to mention this to any one else yet.

You may need to change the child’s schedule or rearrange different hobbies and activities. Your child and their health is more important. In some cases, it is better not to even mention it to the child right away or they may become too emotional. Once they have moved on to different activities, it would be safe to discuss, if you prefer. Unfortunately there are some offenders who find work in a school setting in order to be close in proximity to the age group that they target.

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