If you have recently been abused, may be it was sexually, you may still be feeling a little too hurt to venture out in public yet. This is the time to start reading books or articles that talk about developing the mind set you need for overcoming obstacles. It is a guide for you to do on your own to help you be stronger and overcome what you have gone through. It is a journey for your personal development. Now, you may not be so inclined to want to start some thing like this since you are already over come with grief and sadness. You must begin by trusting yourself enough to at least read a book or two in the privacy of your own home.
The books will sow you so many examples of what people have accomplished by changing the process of their thinking and avoiding the negative thoughts to run rampant in their brains. You know, they way you are feeling now. They will share how important it is to build on the good news instead of concentrating on the bad all the time. It is called having a positive mental attitude. Get one.
They want you to dwell on building on your strengths and stop putting the energy on the old thoughts that are not working for you anymore. If all you have the strength to do right now is to just read the stories of others who have already done this and continue on this path, then, that is okay. After you read enough of them you will understand that it can also work for you, too.