What to Do When Your Teen Asks for Birth Control

Oral contraception, better known as the birth control pill, is purportedly 99% effective against pregnancy. Birth control pills are taken on a daily basis and are the most effective when taken at the same time of day. It can be obtained from a gynecologist, college health centers if you are a student, and clinics such as Planned Parenthood.

Birth control pills are a good tool for sexually active women who do not desire a pregnancy at this point in their lives. So what do you do when your teenager asks for oral contraception? Although the thought of your daughter being sexually active may seem irksome, it is a fact that teenagers have sex and share some of the same physical and emotional desires as adults.

If you have already talked to your teen about sex, you are off to a good start. Being open about such a serious matter decreases the chance of unwanted pregnancies and STDs. Do not be concerned if you did not know your teen was sexually active before she asked for birth control. This may be her way of telling you. Or, perhaps, she is thinking about having sex and wants to have options to protect herself.

When your teen asks for oral contraception, talk to her about why she wants to be sexually active and help her make sure it’s for all of the right reasons. Examples of wrong reasons include to please a boy or because of peer pressure. Take her to a doctor for a check-up and so that she can become educated on all of her options. Ensure that she knows oral contraceptives do not protect her against STDs and HIV. To play it safe, her boyfriend should wear condoms.

The best thing you can do is offer support to help protect your teen. The worst thing you can do is to forbid her from sex. She will likely find a way and may end up facing the consequences.

Pregnancy from Rape: Know Your Options

The physical and emotional violations incurred during and after being raped are enough to have lasting effects. In some cases, women who are raped become pregnant. This is a difficult situation, considering the fact that you may be trying to get over being raped, let alone deal with being pregnant.

At this point, new questions may come to light. Do you keep the baby? Should you have an abortion? What are your options? What is the right thing to do?

The last question may depend upon your own morals and religious beliefs. Most people that are pro-life are conservative Christians. Extremely conservative people believe that you should keep any baby, no matter what the circumstances are. It wasn’t fair that you were raped, but it isn’t the baby’s fault that he was conceived in such a matter.

On the flip side, maybe you don’t want a baby or are financially unstable. Or the thought of having a baby from a rapist is just too much to handle. It’s justifiable to have such feelings. How could you possibly take care of a baby when you need to take care of yourself right now?

There is no right or wrong decision in this matter, as every situation is different. The thing to remember is that it is your decision, and yours alone to make. If you decide to keep the baby, there are support groups available to help you. If you do not have the money, there are various government programs to ensure that you and your baby receive proper health care and nutrition.

If you decide that having this baby is the wrong thing to do, you can see your gynecologist to discuss abortion options. She may refer you to a surgeon or recommend the abortion pill.

Also consider taking the morning after pill if you are raped in order to prevent unwanted pregnancy in the first place.

Sex Education: Abstinence vs. Intercourse Safety

Most states offer sex education to adolescents at some point during middle school or early high school. These sessions are often conducted during a health or anatomy class and they are often divided by gender. However, some states advocate co-ed sex education classes, though there is a risk of embarrassment for some of the children.

Sex education is designed to teach children about the human body, pregnancy, and consequences of unprotected sex. The sessions do not advocate sex, but rather teach teens how to be safe for when the time does come. Some classes even teach young women how to avoid rape and where to get help is someone does abuse them in such a way.

The problem is that not all parents advocate sex education classes. There are a number of reasons. First, parents might feel that their child is too young or that they would rather take it upon themselves to teach about sex and safety. Sex education classes also do not sit well with families who advocate abstinence until marriage, due to religious beliefs.

Some people are also afraid that sex education advocates sex, or may give children sexual ideas and inclinations. Given the subject matter, the classes may instead turn children off from having sex too young. During the class, children are exposed to pictures of STDs, the idea of teen pregnancy, and rape. Such images or ideas are not likely to conjure sexual motives in children.

For these reasons, children are required to gain parental consent in the form of writing before attending the classes. Before considering banning your child from a class, talk to the teacher about the lesson plans and offer your concerns. Also consider the consequences of not letting your child attend class. He or she may miss out on some valuable information about STDs, pregnancy, safety, and a number of other issues.