Many persons believe that they cannot be victims of domestic abuse because they are educated, employed and having a life of their own. Further, they equate physical violence with domestic abuse. Since there is no physical violence, they conclude that they are not being abused in any manner.
Well, any person who is asked to hand over complete financial control to the other partner and who has not given the freedom to have a say in these matters is also a victim of abuse. Remember, excessive control is also a form of abuse.
This often leads to confusing thoughts because there are numerous instances where we have seen other persons in relationships being controlled by their partners. Well, whether the control is excessive enough to qualify for abuse is something that only you can decide. However, it is better to err on the side of caution.
If your partner is loving and caring and if he or she is simply excessively cautious as far as finance are concern, then it may not be abuse. If you have the freedom of taking your own decisions provided you consider what the other person has to say, it cannot be called as abuse. Of course, if you are given choice only for namesake and if you have no option but to obey whatever the other partner says, then it may qualify as domestic abuse.
Rather than focusing on semantics and rather than trying to get into detailed interpretation, you should look for combination of various factors to control whether the relationship itself is abusive or not.
If excessive control is combined with loss of temper, humiliating behavior and even perverse sexual demands in bed, it is obvious that your relationship is suffering from abuse. On the other hand, if none of these factors are present and if there is only a certain level of control in financial matters, it is merely over caution on the part of your partner.
