Why Stay With Him?

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An unfortunately large number of women have a tendency to stay with men who treat them badly. Sadly, these women will often stay with a man, even if they’re beaten and emotionally abused on a regular basis. For a lot of these women, it seems the answer comes down to a simple case of attraction.

Most of the decisions people make in life are caused by their chemistry, including who they find sexually attractive. When a man demonstrates certain traits, many women will find him irresistable no matter what he does. It may make a woman sound stupid, but it has nothing to do with how intelligent she is. It all comes down to the fact that she considers the man to be sexy. This carries the unfortunate brand of having brought it on herself, even though that isn’t the case at all. Generally an abuser does this to feel powerful, or because he only knows how to be in a relationship where he causes someone else pain in some form.

Unfortunately, far too many women simply can’t convince themselves to leave a man who still gives them a thrilling rush when he isn’t beating or shouting at them. These women aren’t wrong, and they aren’t stupid either. They’re just victimized by their upbringings and their DNA. Many women are hard-wired to seek out the kinds of traits that make a man good in a particular setting — our cave-dwelling ancestry — that also happen to make many men into abusers.

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